Like most single people who own smartphones and a sense of adventure, I spend a decent amount of time on Tinder. Most times I match with far more men than I actually end up talking with. The reason? Because however hot their photo, I can’t get past a “hi” (too generic!) a “how are u?” (too lazy!), and a “do u want sex?” (do I even need to tell you what’s wrong with that proposition?).
It’s not that I’m high-maintenance. Those intros simply don’t make me want to talk further. A smart introductory message would, and many of single female friends feel the same way. So next time you’re looking to make an impression on Tinder, try one of these five messages — none of which involve her appearance. Here’s why: If you both matched, you clearly think each other is attractive. A generic “love your pics” is an okay self-esteem booster. But it’s also trite and hard to figure out where to go from there. These lines will actually get you two talking …
#1. “Hey, did I see you this morning at Cool Beans coffee shop?”
It’s not as sleazy as it sounds, trust me. Pretending you and she may have crossed paths — even if you’re damn sure you didn’t — will pique her curiosity enough to elicit a response. And even if it is a bit of a lie, it’s a great entrée that’ll lead you both to talking about your favorite cafes in your respective neighborhoods. That, if you play your hand right, can springboard into meeting up.