#1. GOING OVERBOARD WITH DIRTY TALK
There’s a fine line between using words that rev us up or make us want to dart out of your apartment. Women, as reported in 2007, hate the word “moist” (as in “moist panties”). Also, using the “C” word, excessive cursing or slang terms for genitalia are also off of the table. Use your head — your other head. Try focusing on something specific and non-obvious about what’s turning you on.
Don’t comment on how tight my ass is, or how squishy or firm my breasts are. Yawn. Instead, turn your attention to my hair, eyeliner, or outfit. Those things were done to get your attention, so throw me a bone and let me know it worked. Knowing I succeeded will turn me on.
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