Dos and Don’ts of Facebook Dating
If you learn the social networking dating rules, you’ll experience fewer defriendings and more pokes.
By Sharalyn Hartwell
That’s why there are several rules you must follow to make sure you’re not e-sabotaging your relationships. For instance, if your signature romantic gesture involves Farmville, you are not following the rules.
Remember these dos and don’ts of using Facebook while dating, however, and we guarantee you’ll experience fewer defriendings and more pokes.
DON’T friend her too soon
There are plenty of creepy dudes perusing Facebook pictures and sending friend requests to hot girls. Don’t be one of them .If you send a friend request before you’ve had a conversation or introduction, she will be weirded out. If your date is a set-up, don’t friend her before you meet. And if you met her when you were out one night, make sure she actually gave you her last name before you send a friend request. A good rule of thumb: If you have her phone number, you can be her Facebook friend.
DON’T poke her
Would you ever poke a strange woman in real life in order to get her attention? So don’t do it online. It’s not flirty. In fact, women think it means you’re too much of a wuss to actually say hello.
DON’T make a nuisance of yourself
If she isn’t responding to your private message, instant message —never IM someone you haven’t contacted before — or wall comment, don’t keep bugging her. Let her respond to you.
DO assume that everyone she knows is on Facebook
We mean everyone–her grandmother, her niece, her boss. This means you can’t write something inappropriate on her wall or tag her in an incriminating picture. If you embarrass her in front of important people, you can kiss your chances with her goodbye.
DO be real
Just because you discovered she’s into indie rock and foreign films by scouring her Info page doesn’t mean you should pretend to be into the same stuff or be the first one to bring them up—it’s better to let her tell you about her interests organically.
DO take it offline
Facebook can be a great way to flirt or to make some awkward beginning stages of a relationship slightly less so. But use it sparingly; if you interact too much electronically in the beginning, it becomes more difficult to establish your in-person relationship.