Advice for First Date Jitters
There’s no need for the first date jitters if you cover your bases. Brush up on exemplary date behavior by reading our advice for first date anxiety
By Jonathan Hackman
A first date! You’re off for a night on the town with a lovely, fascinating companion. Here’s some advice for first date jitters that will keep them under control enough for your to get a second date.
First of all, be a gentleman. You don’t have to wear a tuxedo and behave like a Victorian fop; just be polite. Comb your hair. Put on clean clothes. When you’re out on the town, say “Please” and “Thank you” to the folks who wait on you. Simple good manners, thoughtfulness and consideration are important.
If you want to get to know one another, it’s important that you know how to talk. What too many people tend to forget is that it’s just as important to know how to shut up. Tell your stories and sing your own praises, but pay attention to her responses. If it’s been awhile since she’s said anything other than “Mm-hm,” “Wow, and “Really?” you need to back off and let her have a turn. Ask questions! Be genuinely curious, and then be quiet while she answers them. Let her lead you toward her own favorite topics. Conversation is an art, not a competition.
You’ll hear plenty of advice for first date jitters, but this the essence of it all. Respect your date, and value her friendship above all. There’s never a guarantee that romance will blossom, but the chances improve if you show that you’re a great friend with a lot more to offer.