Tips For Dealing With A Jealous Girlfriend
If you’re involved in a relationship with an envious woman, telling her she’s acting crazy is, well, crazy.
By JL Scott
3) CHANGE YOUR BEHAVIOR
If you’re taking the majority of your calls in other rooms, telling her you’re meeting with “a friend” when you’re really having catch-up drinks with an ex from college, or saying a text was from “nobody” when it’s obvious from your enormous screen that it’s from a female, you’re acting shady. (Not that I’m speaking from experience here or anything …) Jealousy comes from insecurity. And trust me, insecurity can take a long, long time — and maybe even some therapy — to overcome. So if you’re giving her reasons to feel insecure — and acting super secretive about everything absolutely does that — you’re a bigger part of the problem than the solution.
4) ALLOW HER TO MEET “THE ENEMY” …
Sometimes we hear that you’re working late with Kelly and we imagine an Angelina Jolie clone and you in a dimly lit conference room sitting right next to each other. In other words, when we don’t know the characters involved we’ll often invent things. But if you invite us out to meet your co-workers, we’ll see the engagement ring on Kelly’s finger and that you two banter like siblings. And yeah, most likely will privately reassure ourselves we’re hotter than her (sorry, Kelly — but it’s true!). That’ll make us feel better.
5) UNLESS “THE ENEMY” IS YOUR EX
We’re glad your ex was (or is) awesome. But the majority of us aren’t exactly pumped to meet her or even hear about her, especially if she was recent-ish. Or if you lived together. Or if she’s attractive, funny, or successful. Or if she has two eyes, hair, and both hands and feet. We know you have great taste in women because you’re with us, but if you want to hang with her all the time, we’re just going to wonder why you aren’t you still with her … or if you’d rather be. So, especially if your relationship is new, don’t introduce your current girlfriend to your ex, at least for awhile. And maybe suspend your weekly Sunday-morning brunch date with her too.
6) GIVER HER SOME SOCIAL MEDIA LOVE
Being tagged in a boyfriend’s Facebook post or picture is the cyber equivalent of that “wear your guy’s varsity jacket” move from cheesy teen romantic comedies. It says that you’re proud and happy being with us. Also, it hopefully serves as a sign to all your female “friends” that you’re content to be taken. So if you use Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Instagram, etc., toss her some love, will ya?