Win Back Your Ex Using Science, Nerds!

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sex stats 2015 First off, getting back together with an ex might be a horrible idea. Science has already told us that. However, for those of you insist that your relationship is worth salvaging — and it always seems like it is when the wound is still fresh — here's why you're wrong, according to researchers at Kansas State University: While certain research shows that getting back to relationships that have broken up, may not be the best solution. For example, the carried out a study of “cyclical relationships” showed that couples who break up and then get back together frequently experience big problems. Both partners tend to think that the other has improved or changed in some way. It was noted that these reunited couples end up not discussing these problems or decisions, simply because they like to believe that the old problems have disappeared for good. In fact, the research shows that people who got back together have exhibited the following:
  • Their communication gets worse.
  • Decisions that are bad for the relationship are more frequent.
  • They are generally less pleased with their relationship.
  • They have lower self-esteem.
  • They are generally less pleased with their relationship.
So it does not look good. Still hopeful? That's fine because that same study also yielded these encouraging results:
  • 1 out of 5 married couples had gone through a breakup and then got back together at some point in the past.
  • 1 in 3 couples who lived together had also got back together after splitting up.
Nearly half of adults between the ages of 17 and 24 have recently got back together with an ex, according to a study by the Journal of Adolescent Research. Again, it's something slim to latch onto, but it's there. The obvious point — young relationships are more prone to breakdown and renewal. It shows that people are maturing rapidly at that particular age, hence relationship problems are overcome simply thanks to natural growth. These might help ... at least a little bit …