Dealing with Bitter Feelings

It’s normal to feel bitter at times. We all experience disappointment, heartbreak, and sadness. Even when these emotions are justified, it can be hard to deal with the feeling of bitterness that comes with them. But while it can be difficult to face, understanding why we feel the way we do is essential for learning how to cope and move on.

What Does it Mean to Be Bitter?

At its core, bitterness is an emotion that arises when we feel wronged or betrayed by someone else. It can also be a sign of unresolved trauma from our past or present that we haven’t processed properly. In either case, bitterness causes us to become angry, resentful, and suspicious of others—and those feelings can be hard to shake off if not addressed properly.

The Problem with Bitterness

The problem with bitterness is that it prevents us from living our best lives. When we are consumed with negative emotions like anger and resentment, we aren’t able to focus on what brings us joy and fulfillment. Additionally, holding onto these negative emotions can have a physical effect on us as well; studies have shown that carrying around negative feelings like anger and resentment can lead to increased stress levels which can contribute to long-term health issues such as heart disease and depression. 

How Can I Move Past My Bitter Feelings?

The first step in dealing with bitterness is acknowledging that you’re feeling it in the first place. Taking ownership of your emotions can help you work through them more effectively and come out the other side feeling better about yourself and your life overall. Once you’ve done this, look inwardly at what could have caused your feelings of betrayal or hurt in the first place.

It could be something as simple as being let down by a friend or loved one, or something more serious such as a traumatic event in your past. If it’s the latter then seeking professional help may be beneficial so that you have somebody impartial to talk through your experiences with and help you develop coping strategies for dealing with them in future situations.

It’s also important to remember that everyone has different perspectives and interpretations of events; try not to hold onto grudges over things that may not seem like a big deal from another person’s point of view. Finally, it helps to practice self-care by taking time for yourself each day where you focus on positive activities such as meditation or exercise which will help clear away any negative thoughts and feelings associated with being bitter.


Understanding why we feel bitter is an important part of learning how to cope with this emotion effectively so that we can move forward without letting our negative experiences define us. While it may take some time and effort on our part to process our thoughts and feelings surrounding any particular situation which has left us feeling wronged or betrayed, taking ownership of our emotions is key for allowing us to heal from them ultimately so that we don’t stay stuck in a cycle of bitterness forevermore!