How to Spot Signs That Your Ex is Testing You

Breakups are never easy, and when you add in the possibility of an ex testing you for something—it can be downright confusing. If your ex is testing you, it’s important to recognize the signs so that you don’t make any mistakes or do anything that will harm the relationship. Here are some of the most common signs your ex is testing you.

1. They Initiate Contact Out of Nowhere

This one should be pretty obvious. If your ex suddenly starts contacting you out of nowhere, they might be doing it to see how quickly you respond and how much effort you put into the conversation. It could also be a sign that they miss talking to you and want to rekindle your connection.

2. They Ask Questions About Your Love Life

If your ex starts asking questions about who you’re dating or if they bring up conversations about relationships in general, it could be a sign that they’re trying to gauge where your heart is at. They want to know if there’s still a chance for them or if their time has passed and it’s too late for them to get back together with you.

3. They Bring Up Things You Used To Do Together

If your ex keeps bringing up things that the two of you used to do together—whether it’s inside jokes or activities from when you were dating—it could mean that they are trying to test whether those memories still have an emotional impact on you. This could be a sign that they are hoping for reconciliation between the two of you and are trying to figure out if there is still something there between the two of you.

4. Social Media Interactions

Another sign of an ex testing you is if they start leaving comments or liking posts on your social media accounts all of a sudden. It could also be suspicious if they follow up with private messages asking why they weren’t included in certain activities or conversations. This can be their way of seeing how much attention they can get out of you, even though the relationship has ended.

5. Trying to Hang Out with Mutual Friends

Finally, pay attention if your ex starts trying to hang out with mutual friends regularly or invites them out places without including you in the invitation. This could indicate that your ex wants to make sure that everyone knows what’s going on between the two of you—and possibly even make sure that everyone knows how much better off they are now than when they were in the relationship with you. 


It can be difficult to tell if an ex is testing us because we all handle breakups differently and often try not to think too hard about our past relationships. However, understanding what kind of behavior means that our exes might still have feelings for us can help us make better decisions down the line when it comes time for us to decide whether we should give our relationship another chance or move on with our lives without them.

Knowing these signs can also help us avoid making any mistakes or hurting them unintentionally by responding incorrectly during their test period. It’s always best to stay calm when confronted with these situations and carefully consider all possible outcomes before taking action. Ultimately, only we can decide which path is right for us in this situation.