Is Physical Intimacy Important Before Marriage?

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Who doesn’t want to meet their soulmate and live happily ever after? We see these perfect love stories in movies all the time, but it has nothing in common with our dating lives. Today’s dating world is nothing but chaos where the variety of choices is just insane. There is a chance you will date not just one person, but two and even ten before you find someone special to settle down with.

Taking this into account, you still might wonder whether you should take a purity pledge and wait for the right person or not. If you feel any kind of pressure and don’t know what to do about physical intimacy before marriage, here is what you need to know:

Sex unites

Sex unites two people not only physically, but also emotionally. Whenever a woman has sexual intercourse she enjoys, her brain releases a hormone called oxytocin. This hormone is responsible for keeping a woman attached to her partner. This hormone affects man a bit differently – it makes him more protective over his woman. 

So, sex can actually help you create a real connection by using the power of hormones. And of course it can help your couple to become stronger. At the same time, there is a chance you will fall in love with someone you don’t really know well. It happens all the time- people jump into bed on the first date, enjoy themselves and think that they have a committed relationship. Can it be real? Well, hormones make people think that it is real.

That’s why you need to give it some time and get to know your partner at first. It’s up to you whether you want to wait until marriage or not. However, one thing is for sure: if you want a happy, long-lasting relationship, let the friendship be a foundation of it, not only sex. 

Sex is different

Sex doesn’t always look like they show it in romantic movies. You might not always have candles all around the room, and your partner won’t have a perfect body. Also, let’s not forget that people have very different fetishes – foot fetish, asian sex dolls, watching pornography during sex, dirty talk, etc. You or your partner might also need to fantasize or use some props in the bedroom in order to stimulate sexual desire. 

You cannot be 100% sure that you and your future spouse will have the same views on sex. Your loved one might like something extraordinary that you will not be able to tolerate and vice versa.

That’s why it makes sense to explore your sexuality and desires before getting married. It will help to prevent unpleasant surprises in the future for you and your loved one.

Sexual compatibility is real

Some couples can’t find a middle ground when it comes to sex. A lot of people have a bigger libido than their partners, and that’s where the problem starts. One partner might feel guilty for putting too much pressure on their loved one while having unsatisfying sex. 

You can be the best couple ever, but if you have a different understanding of sex and its importance (and frequency) in the relationship, you might end up having lots of fights. 

Also, let’s not forget that it is possible to find your partner’s body to be a complete turnoff. And it’s definitely a red flag for the relationship. 

Of course, sexual incompatibility is not a life sentence. You and your partner can look for compromises and achieve better results. However, not everyone will be able to admit that there is a problem and address it in the right way. The thing is that it takes a lot of strength to admit that you are not enough for your partner. 

That’s why it’s better to check your sexual compatibility before getting married. On the other hand, you can always talk about your fears with your partner.

It’s your decision

You should not let anyone decide for you on this one. Your sex life should be private, so don’t discuss your desires or fears with people you don’t trust. The best thing you can do is to have an honest conversation with your partner. You need to make sure you and your loved one have the same ideas about sex and its importance in the relationship.

Sex is an amazing experience, especially when you are with someone you love deeply. However, you should not force yourself or your partner to have it. Do it once both you and your partner feel like it’s the right thing to do. Sex is just another expression of true love.