Why You Should Never Go to Bed Angry

We’ve all been there before. You’re in the heat of the moment, arguing with your significant other about something that seems so trivial in retrospect. But in the moment, it feels like the most important thing in the world.

The argument escalates until finally, one of you throws up your hands and says, “Fine! I’m going to bed!” And with that, you storm off to bed, fuming mad. But here’s the thing: going to bed angry is never a good idea. Here’s why.

1. It’s Hard to Sleep When You’re Mad

When you’re angry, your heart rate and blood pressure increase, making it harder for you to fall asleep. And even if you do manage to fall asleep, you’re likely to have a restless night full of fitful sleep and bad dreams. So if you want to get a good night’s sleep, it’s best to resolve the issue before you go to bed.

2. It’ll Only Make Things Worse

Giving yourself time to cool down overnight will only make things worse. Chances are, you’ll wake up feeling just as angry as you did when you went to bed—if not more so. And then you’ll start the day off on the wrong foot, which sets the tone for the rest of the day. It’s much better to resolve the issue while it’s still fresh so that you can move on with your day.

3. It’ll Make It Harder to Apologize

The longer you wait to apologize, the harder it will be. By going to bed angry, you’re giving yourself time to dwell on all the negative things about the other person and entrenching yourself in your own anger. This makes it much harder to see things from the other person’s perspective and apologize for your own role in the argument. So if you want to patch things up, it’s best to do it sooner rather than later.


The next time you find yourself in an argument with your significant other, resist the urge to go to bed angry. It’s hard enough to resolve disagreements when both parties are calm and rational; trying to do so when one or both of you are still angry is practically impossible. If you want to get some sleep and start fresh tomorrow, sit down and talk things out—you’ll be glad you did.