True story: I once dated a guy who compulsively grunted “Oh yeah, you like that? You like that?” almost the entire time he was on top of me. And no, I did not like that.
What I would have liked is if he had been a little less generic and repetitive. And since studies show that couples who get verbally nasty in bed report increased levels of intimacy and relationship satisfaction, I think it’s safe to say that knowing how to talk dirty is an essential component to good sex. Thing is, as Mr. You Like That proved, it’s not always easy for some guys to do — or to do well. So here are some basic, lady-friendly rules to get you started …
RULE 1: GIVE A PLAY BY PLAY
If you’re a newbie to dirty talking, one of the easiest, least intimidating ways to initiate it is to simply describe — in positive terms — what’s happening in the moment. Simple stuff like, “It feels so good to be inside you,” or “It drive me insane when you put your mouth there” should work just fine. But be selective about what actions you narrate. “It’s so hot when you pause to remove a pubic hair from your mouth” will not have the desired effect.