Want to Get Your Ex Back?
It happens all the time in movies, but in real life, getting your ex back isn’t as easy as showing up at the altar on her wedding day. For those looking for advice on how to get your ex back, read on.
By Jonathan Hackman
Are you trying to get your ex back? Let’s be honest and admit that 999,999 times out of a million, this is a terrible idea. Most people that go this route and succeed find that they’re settling just because they’re comfortable with that person. They both fall back into old habits and misery. If you’re doing this, you need to be certain that you and your ex have both changed for the better. However, if you’re already certain, here are some thoughts on winning back your ex:
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Show Her That Things Will Be Different
Don’t do this in an over-the-top, manipulative kind of way because if either of you are going to be manipulative, things are doomed again. You can ask for the opportunity to show that you’ve changed, but don’t force it. Be respectful if she is apprehensive. Whether she lets you take her on a date or you both just hang out with other friends, just be yourself. If you want to show her that things will be different, allow her to see changes you’re making in your lifestyle that reflect that choice. For example, if her complaint was that you need to be more of a gentleman, start opening doors and treating her like a lady.
Don’t Be Territorial
If either of you have seen other people since you split up, don’t grill her about details. On the other hand, don’t talk about any other women you may have seen either. If you say you want a fresh start, you really need to mean it. Let the past stay in the past.
Make Her Want You
While it is a good idea to show her you care, you should also back off a little. Attraction can be a bit of a game, and you have to make her want you. Show her some attention, but then give her some breathing room. Maybe she’ll realize what she’s missing.
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Don’t Count On It
If it doesn’t work, don’t force it. Trying to get your ex back is tricky, and can often be a fleeting desire. If they don’t want you back, it’s for the best.