5 Secrets to Feeling More Confident in Bed


Let’s face it, sometimes feeling sexy can be hard. Like, really hard. Read on to learn how to be more confident in bed here.

According to one study, 13% of people never feel confident in bed.

We can assume the numbers are much higher, as most of us have had uncomfortable and unconfident sex at least once in our lifetimes.

If you want to get the most out of your experiences, with or without a partner, keep reading to find out how to be more confident in bed with these 5 tips.

1. Grow Your Self-Love

Sex and your state-of-mind aren’t separate things. This is why emotional or visual cues can lead to arousal. On the other end of the spectrum, having doubts and insecurities can hurt your sex life.

To feel more confident in bed, it helps to feel more confident in yourself. Try to create more positive self-talk in your mind, practice skills that you’re good at, and focus on the things you love about yourself and your body.

2. Give Yourself Some Loving

Oftentimes, we’re not confident in bed because we don’t know what we want. This causes us to follow the other person’s lead and makes us wonder if we’re “any good” at sex.

To combat this, spend some time having solo sex. Try different things while masturbating, such as different positions, styles, speeds, and pressures. 

This will help you figure out what you like and grow the sexual energy in you so that when you come together with a partner, you’re charged and ready to take action. Plus, it will make you feel more sensual and sexual all around.

Another thing you can do that may enhance your confidence is Kegels. Kegels (i.e. tightening and relaxing your pelvic floor) can allow you to last longer in bed while having more intense orgasms. Naturally, this will lead to you feeling better while having sex.  

3. Set the Scene

If you have sexy outfits that make you feel confident, wear them before having sex to boost your mood. Alternatively, you can lather yourself up in oil so that you feel smooth and saucy. 

You can also prepare the room that you’ll have sex in. Music, for example, works with the same pleasure systems in our brains that sex works with. So, adding slow, sensual music can keep you focused on feeling good rather than focusing on thoughts that are negative.

If you don’t feel confident with many aspects of your body, try dimming the lights. You’ll still get to see your partner, but the soft lights automatically make things that much more hot while offering shadows to feel comfortable in.

4. Get Comfortable With Your Partner

Even if you only see a person to hook up with them, it’s important to build an emotional bond together. 

Having some sort of relationship allows you to build trust, communicate needs, and soften into silliness whenever it comes up. That way, you don’t feel as pressured to be or act a certain way.

You can get comfortable with a person (even if you don’t know them) by talking openly about your sexual preferences before you get caught up in the act. This honest conversation can happen simply by talking about it while cuddling and exploring each other’s bodies with your hands.

That way, you can be confident that you know what they like (and vice versa) and that each person feels supported to speak and act authentically.

5. Last Longer for Optimal Pleasure

Perhaps you don’t feel confident in bed because you don’t last very long.

You can work at this in a number of ways. We’ve already mentioned two: masturbating and Kegels.

Other options include breathwork, “edging”, foreplay, and slowing things down. If nothing seems to work, you can always opt for gender-specific enhancement pills like Viril-X that boost your sexual ability and hormones.

Knowing that you’re working towards lasting longer in bed, your confidence will boost dramatically. 

How to Be More Confident In Bed: Have the Most Bangin’ Sex Life

With these 5 tips on how to be more confident in bed, you can get down with a smile and maximum enjoyment.

Keep reading our blog for more tips to improve your life — in and out of bed.