Introducing sex accessories, like vibrators, can be challenging for couples who have never used them. Here’s how to approach the issue.
You’ve been thinking about trying to spice things up in your bedroom for a while. One of the best and easiest ways to do that is with sex accessories. The problem with using them is bringing up the subject with your partner.
You want to get them interested in it without damaging their ego. You’ve got to let your significant other see that there’s no shame in using them and that they will only serve to enhance your sexual experience.
Keep reading to learn more about how to talk to your partner about introducing sex toys into your bedroom fun.
Talk to Each Other First
The first step to introducing adult toys in your relationship is to talk to your partner about them. You don’t want to just bring them in without discussing things ahead of time. It may not go over well.
If your partner is hesitant due to the myths surrounding sex toys, talk to them about that and try and debunk them if you can.
You should also come up with little bedroom rules for using them. Talk about what you’re comfortable with and what you’re not comfortable with.
Start Small and Go from There
You want to start small with something non-phallic and non-threatening. Some partners are afraid that the toy will replace them. To quell their fears, don’t pick up the biggest vibrator in the shop.
Start with a small bullet or a tiny vibrator. It will be enough to be fun for the two of you without being overly threatening.
Do Some Research
Always do your research before committing to a toy. The more you both know about the options available to you, the easier it will be for everyone involved.
If your partner has any lingering fears, doing research on specific toys will help ease them and may even get them more interested.
Shop for Toys Together
If your partner agrees to use toys, you don’t want to go out on your own and pick one out. Shop together and come to an agreement on toys that you’ll both enjoy.
It’s better to see products online rather than go to a physical store. It’s less embarrassing to discuss what you want at home rather than in a store in front of people. Besides, you’ll have a bigger selection to choose from anyway.
Keep the Pressure Off
If your partner still isn’t on board with the idea after talking, don’t press the issue. The use of sex toys should be consensual so it’s enjoyable for both of you. You can’t force it on them.
If they refuse, put introducing sex toys on the back burner for now. You can always bring it back up later.
Incorporating Sex Accessories into Your Bedroom Fun
Have you been looking for ways to spice up your sexual relationship with your partner? The easiest way to do that is by introducing sex accessories into the bedroom.
It can be a sensitive topic to bring up but if you use these tips, you might be able to ease their hesitation.
If it doesn’t there are more ways to have fun with your significant other. Check out our blog daily for more articles like this one.