8 Things You Should Lie To Her About
In relationships, honesty is the best policy … mostly. Because there are certain times when fudging the truth is not only acceptable, but advisable.
By JL Scott
As a woman, I will tell you that there are certain things you always need to be upfront about if you want a woman to trust you. Your real name, for instance. If you have a girlfriend, a wife (or husband), or have kids. If you have any STDs. If you’re currently on the run from the Johnny Law. Beyond that, there are a lot of gray areas — especially when you first begin dating someone.
I’m not saying that telling lies is something you want to make a habit of, but there are things that are better left unsaid. So if you lie to us about these eight things it won’t hurt the relationship, and might even help you avoid a blowout fight.
1. HOW MUCH YOU KNOW ABOUT AN EX
We know you occasionally think — or even fantasize — about an ex. (We do it, too.) But we don’t want to hear any updates about her, especially if you’re happy spending time with us. So if for some reason after a few glasses of wine we ask what Lindsay, Emily, or any of your other exes are up to these day, spare us details. Otherwise, we’ll assume you’re still into her or that you at least keep tabs on her.
2. ANY MENTAL AND PHYSICAL HEALTH DETAILS
In the early stages of dating you don’t want this type of info to overshadow any getting-to-know you stuff. For example, I once dated a guy who on date two let it slip that he went to therapy five times a week. For the next few dates, that was all I could think about whenever I saw him. I didn’t know him well enough to know how that detail fit into his identity, so that became his identity. If the relationship progresses, these types of things are important to share. But there’s a time and a place for everything, and it’s never within the first few dates.