#5. “You’re not the prettiest woman I’ve met today, but you’ve got the style and attitude going on.”
The man who said this to my friend was surprised when she rebuffed him, adding that this compliment “usually works” on chicks. Okay … what? In a way, his candor is refreshing. We’ve all heard of the pick-up artist technique of negging, and because we all have heard about it and seen it in action, it’s not effective.
Saying it is just rude; even if I have style and attitude, your statement asserts that I’m lacking. Plus, if I have the “attitude” you’re saying I have, why wouldn’t I punch you in the throat for that comment?
SAY THIS INSTEAD: “You look amazing.”
Wow! Weird how this alternative might be more effective than a outright insult!
It’s simple and straight to the point, and even though it’s a little cheesy, we’re still going to be flattered. In general, if you’re trying to pick up a stranger, be sincere and straight to the point. Chatting someone up is always a little on the creepy side, so there’s no need to make it creepier by trying out pick-up artist techniques I guarantee won’t work — and may end up with the girl throwing a drink in your face or kneeing you in the groin. (And those girls can be the best ones in bed.)
