5 Gifts for New Girlfriends
Show her you like her … but not too much.
By Sharalyn Hartwell
You don’t want to get her something too cheap, but it’s also not appropriate to go out and buy her expensive jewelry. So what’s a guy to do?
In a perfect world, you could always control the timing of a relationship – you know, be sure you’ve been dating for a substantial amount of time before her birthday or any major holidays roll around. It just doesn’t always work that way.
Add in the times you are itching to surprise her with a small token of your growing affection and you are stuck coming up with a gift that won’t scare her with implications (that means plastic surgery is out), that is still meaningful and won’t make you look cheap.
It’s not as difficult as it sounds.
The key to the perfect gift for a new girlfriend is finding something with significance to her specifically or to your relationship. These kinds of gifts undoubtedly show you care, which is the goal in the first place. Because every woman and every relationship is different, there is no one-size-fits-all present. Instead, there are five types of meaningful gifts for your new girlfriend.
Significant-Moment Gifts. These gifts depict significant moments in the relationship. Think of the things you were doing together when those sparks first started to fly and give her something that will recreate that moment. For example, you could get her DVDs of the first movies you watched together, a copy of the book you told her about in your first conversation or coffee grounds from the coffee shop where you first met.
Another idea is to let her know about a significant moment you had in regards to her. Maybe you were listening to music when you realized you liked this girl enough to make it exclusive. Get her that CD. Significant moment gifts illustrate the moments you think are special and allow her to relive them anytime she chooses. These are the gifts that will cement you as a legend in the eyes of your girl and her friends.
Future Event Gifts. There is a delicate balance that must be maintained in new relationships between knowing you have a future and meticulously planning that future. You might be completely crazy about your latest girl, but if you start talking about the future too quickly, you can scare her; however, if you avoid discussing anything beyond next weekend, she will feel like you don’t see long-range potential. The line is impossible to see, but you will know it when you have crossed it, like all lines with women. A gift can walk that line. Get her tickets to an event (think concert, wine festival, race registration) you know she will love that isn’t too far away but provides something to look forward to. Future event gifts say that you make plans and she is definitely a part of them.
Thinking-of-You Gifts. In any new relationship, you’ll find yourself thinking about her more and more. Some of the strangest things will make you smile and remember something she said or the way her eyes squint when she smiles. She doesn’t know this, but will love to be clued in. Again, little things mean a lot. Start collecting the little things that make you think of her, put in a basket or keepsake box and you’ve just created a one-of-a-kind gift she will cherish. For example, if you find yourself thinking of her warm, brown eyes every time you pour a cup of coffee, find some gourmet coffee beans; if strawberries remind you of how her hair smells, get her some chocolate covered strawberries. With thinking-of-you gifts, you just have to be sure to explain why the gift makes you think of her and she will love it. Otherwise … it’s just weird.
Crossing-Off-her-List Gifts. Think back to those first conversations where the two of you spent hours sharing details about your lives, your past and your dreams. More than likely she mentioned something she always wanted to do. You can make that dream a reality for her. Obviously some things might be outside your budget (not to mention realm of control). Maybe she has always wanted to try a new sport; get her lessons. Maybe she has always wanted to go skydiving; make plans to take her. Maybe she always wanted to build a kegerator. (Marry her immediately.) Gifts that cross off her list will often be experiences. Creating memories is a powerful gift and you are now a part of that memory, which helps solidify your place by her side.
I-Know-the-Real-You Gifts. There are universally girl gifts, like flowers and candy, that almost every girl appreciates. But when you can manage to give a gift that shows you know her as a person, not just her as a girl, she will know just how much you care. Think about things she likes or is passionate about. Is there a gift that might correlate? Perhaps she likes to write. A beautiful leather-bound journal, with a note you wrote inside, is a perfect “I know the real you” gift. Maybe she loves animals and gets as excited as a child at the thought of going to the zoo. A season pass to your local zoo shows you understand that side of her. Maybe she just built you a kegerator. After eloping, put her favorite beer in the kegerator. “I know the real you” gift will make your new girlfriend feel special and cherished.
Man up and do it. It’s easy to rationalize and talk yourself out of even bothering with a gift for a new girlfriend, but a little effort can go a long way. Gifts for a new girlfriend might take a lot of thought, but are usually fairly easy on the pocketbook. Giving your girlfriend meaningful gifts right from the start lays a foundation for thoughtfulness in the relationship. With any luck, she’ll return the favor and get you good gifts as well.