There are a lot of things that come between a couple. Sometimes it’s money, sometimes it’s work, and sometimes it’s communication. However, problems in the bedroom are one of the most common areas where couples struggle to get along.
This can happen for many reasons. For example, long-term couples can start to lose their spark with one another. In some cases, one or both people are too closed off about their sexual desires and fantasies.
Regardless, sexual role-play provides a solution to a less-than-steller sex life. It can help you open up to a new sexual awakening. This can lead to better sex, renewed enthusiasm with your partner, multiple orgasms, and more.
We’re here to help you explore and unlock your deepest desires. Keep reading for 10 of the most exciting role-play ideas.
1. Sex Toys
You can add an insane amount of pleasure and diversity to your bedroom by investing in some sex toys. If you or your partner have never used sex toys before, start slow. Don’t get anything too crazy in the beginning (unless both people are on board).
Experiment with different vibrators, anal beads, dildos, handcuffs, and other relatively mellow sex toys. Then, you and your partner can start exploring other, more intense options based on your sexual fantasies.
2. The Stranger
One of the most intriguing sexual role-play fantasies plays off the mystery and excitement of hooking up with someone you’ve just met. However, if you’re in a committed relationship, this doesn’t mean you need to go find a stranger to cheat on your partner.
Instead, you and your partner can pretend to be strangers who bump into one another in a public place. This could be at a bar, in the produce section of Wal-mart, or anywhere else. Then, the two of you can tear into one another as you would if it were your first time together.
For added fun, try having sex in a public place. Just be careful not to get caught, as it could result in fines and other issues.
3. The Teacher and the Student
One of the most common sex scenes people watch on pornography sites is the student/teacher scenario. Obviously, to keep things appropriate, we will assume this is a college student who is of age.
Dress up with your partner to act out this scene on your own. Decide who will be the struggling student looking to earn a better grade and who will be the professor willing to take advantage of his or her student.
If your partner is open to it, talk to them about bringing another person into the bedroom with you. They might be more open to the idea than you think. However, broach this subject carefully, as it could lead to exposing insecurities or starting a fight.
If you decide to have a threesome with your partner, make sure you have a discussion about the ground rules. For example, many women are okay with bringing another woman into the bedroom but don’t want their boyfriend/husband to have sex with her.
And this is okay. The man gets to be in bed with two women, have sex with his partner, and watch her have sex with another woman.
However, the rules you establish depend entirely on your relationship and the desires of each partner.
5. Power Dynamics
BDSM is popular in sexual role-play. It stands for bondage, discipline, dominance, and submission. These sex scenes can unfold in any number of ways with varying levels of intensity.
For example, a simple BDSM role-play scene might include bound hands and a blindfold. However, this can escalate to whips, nipple clamps, straps, colors, leashes, facemasks, and more.
If you trust your partner, allowing them to dominate you completely can lead to a sexual awakening. Alternatively, you may find you enjoy taking on the role of the dominator.
6. Phone Sex
If you’ve ever watched cable TV past midnight, you’ve likely seen multiple ads for phone sex hotlines. While most of us laugh it off, we can’t help but wonder what these phone calls are like.
If this sexual role-play fantasy piques your interest, consider having phone sex with your partner. If you’re not in a committed relationship, try some phone sex trials. It might feel good to connect with a strange and connect on a sexual and mysterious level.
7. Open Relationships
Some couples are incredibly open with one another and other people. If this extends to their sexuality, it might be worthwhile to try an open relationship with your partner.
In an open relationship, you and your partner can bring a third person into your life as a constant girlfriend/boyfriend. This is also called a polyamorous relationship.
Alternatively, you and your partner can remain committed to one another but have sexual relationships on the side. While this may sound odd, studies have shown that open relationships can be healthy for everyone involved.
8. The Employee and the Boss
Another common role-play idea is the workplace sex scene involving a boss and his or her employee. This plays off the fantasy of sexualizing the intimidating superior and taking advantage of an employee looking to work their way up the pipeline.
This can be incredibly enjoyable, particularly if you spend time finding the right costumes. This includes business suits, business skirts, high-heels, and more.
9. Fictional Characters
Most people tend to fantasize about fictional characters from TV shows, movies, books, and video games. And why wouldn’t we? These forms of media often exploit sexuality to its maximum potential.
Talk to your partner about dressing up and acting like the characters you most commonly fantasize about sexually. It can be a lot of fun and add a lot of spice to your bedroom.
10. Dirty Talk
Finally, introduce some dirty talk into your sex life. Falling back on the same old boring sex with your partner is what leads to boredom in the bedroom. Instead, talk nasty to them.
Tell them what you want to do and how you want to do it. While they’re at work, start talking dirty, sending nudes, and more. The more you two are ramped up, the more intense the sex will be when your partner gets home.
Are You Ready to Try Sexual Role-Play?
As you can see, there are endless ways to incorporate sexual role-play into your sex life. Just make sure you are respectful of your partner’s feelings, insecurities, and desires as well. This can be exactly what you need to spice up the bedroom and keep your relationship thriving.
And if you’re looking for any more advice about sex, health, or relationships, check out some of our other articles while you’re here. Our blog was created to help men like you live their best lives.