How To Give A Woman A Massage

Whether you’ve been together forever or you’ve just started dating, offering to massage a woman is a great way to score points. But to keep her from experiencing pain instead of pleasure while you have your hands on her, you need to know how to give her a massage. That way, when she strips down and gives you the green light to start rubbing you don’t accidentally apply the Vulcan nerve pinch.

For pointers on what to do — and what not to do — when massaging a woman, we spoke with Serena Vann, a Miami Beach massage parlor owner and masseuse with 10 years’ experience.

Set the Mood
No need to burn incense and play the sounds of rain and thunder, but make the environment more conducive to relaxation by using a lamp instead of an overhead light and making a playlist that’s easy on the ears. Your tunes don’t have to be new age or instrumental, but if the song will rattle the walls or contains power chords, skip it.

Lube Up
Using oil or lotion will help your hands glide across her skin easier. You don’t have to pick up anything fancy from a website with a .xxx domain name, either. A bottle of Lubriderm from a local drug store will work fine.

Straddle Her
Ask her to lie face down on your bed, and then straddle her lower body. (You can also kneel next to her, but why do that when you can straddle her?) “Start with the hands up in her shoulders and push all the way down her back in a fluid stroke,” Vann says. “Then come back up with your hands on either side of her with your thumbs in the middle of her spine. That should cover the whole back.”

Go Slow
Speeding through a massage 1) prevents her from relaxing, and 2) makes you seem like you’re uncomfortable. If you take your time you’ll appear more confident — even when that’s not the case. “When you rush, it feels kind of grabby and annoying,” she reveals. Also, if at any point your hands feel awkward or stiff while you’re doing a movement, that’s how she’s feeling. Change it up.

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