When you approach a woman at a cocktail party or happy hour at the Mos Eisley Cantina — our preferred place to approach women — knowing what her body language is saying can reveal a lot about how the conversation is going. Everything from the way she sits, stands, or tilts her head can convey what’s going through her mind. We know, reading her body language isn’t as cool as clairvoyance. But it can help you decide whether you’re wasting time or it’s time to swoop in.
We asked Janine Driver, a body language expert who used to sniff out BS from bad guys with the Bureau of Alcohol, Tobacco, Firearms and Explosives, and the author of the New York Times bestseller You Say More Than You Think ($11 @ Amazon.com), for tips.
1. She’s showing you her belly button.
Yes, if her shirt is off, that’s probably a good sign. But we’re referring to The Belly Button Rule: If she’s facing it in your direction, she likes you. “If her belly button is toward the door, she wants out,” Driver says. “That’s called naval intelligence.” We really like Janine, so we didn’t tease her for making that joke.
2. She’s showing you her feet.
You’ve made her comfortable enough to trust that you’re not an axe-murdering monster, so whatever you’re doing, it’s working. “If her legs are crossed and her shoe is dangling off of her foot, it’s a good sign; she’s not planning on running away,” Driver says.